How to Live the Life That You Want
We all know how it is that we are meant to live our lives. We go to school and we work hard to get good grades. We graduate and get a good job that enables us to pay our mortgage at the end of each month. We then take two weeks vacation each summer, have 1-2 kids, and spend twenty something years instilling our life values in these children. Finally we retire without a mortgage and start enjoying life because we are old and our hard working lives deserve to have made us happy. We give gifts to the grandchildren and spend winter somewhere warm. Then we check out.
Does it have to be this way?
I recently stumbled upon a poll that surveyed dying people on their biggest regret in life. Ahead of regrets about working too hard and not spending enough time with loved ones was the regret of not living life in a way that they wanted to. People felt pressurized to live a life that others expected of them.
I am 25 years old. I went to school and I got good grades. I ended up with a Masters in Mathematics and I started applying for jobs that would give me the opportunity to pay my mortgage and give me my two weeks holiday a year. Then I thought, ‘Is this the life I want to live or the life that I feel I should live?’ I found my answer.
What do I want to do?
I asked myself, if I had an unlimited amount of money, what would I do with my life? So I made a list. I wanted to volunteer in a place I had never been, ski or snowboard for a whole winter, and teach children who want to learn. The reality was that I did not have an unlimited amount of money. I went to Africa with a tiny amount of money and volunteered to build a school in Uganda. Then I got a job taking people skiing two days a week in the French Alps with four free days to snowboard by myself. And to top it off, I taught English in Korea.
I learnt to live the life that I wanted to live and I’m loving it. Despite being told that I would be tied up, robbed, and god knows what else, I spent the last five months hitchhiking through Europe alone. I have never been happier.
Whether it’s money, family, or social stigma, every barrier can be overcome. There is always a way to live the life that you want to live. Look at yourself and ask, ‘Am I living the life that I want to live or the life that I should live?’ Ask yourself what you would do in the world if you could do anything. Then make it happen.
If you want something enough, it can become a reality. It is not an easy journey, but it is a worthwhile one.
Live the life you want to live, a life with no regrets.